Monday, June 30, 2008

Law of Attraction:
Manifesting The Life You Want...Without Ego

--Feature: "Life w/Fyfe: Confessions of a Holistic Mom"--

I was watching a re-run of Oprah the other day -- an episode on how to use the Law of Attraction to get what you want in life.

On the panel was Martha Beck, columnist for O Magazine and author of numerous books on creating the life you want, Cheryl Richardson, famous life coach and author, and Louise Hay, the long-time proponent of the Law of Attraction and author of You Can Heal Your Life. Each member of the panel was discussing how they experienced the Law of Attraction in their lives, but I was especially interested in the "vision boards" that panel members Martha Beck and Cheryl Richardson displayed to show how they created the template their lives.

Suddenly I remembered a version of the vision board I had created several years ago, or rather a "wish box" in which I'd placed images from magazines that represented objects and experiences that I desired to have in my life.

As I looked at the images I had placed in my wish box, I was surprised, and dismayed, to see that most of my images had to do with clothes and a larger kitchen -- material things that are also related to status. Another prominent theme was beautiful flowers and gardens, lots and lots of hydrangeas, lilacs, and wildflowers. (Okay, so I'm somewhat redeemed by a desire for natural beauty).

As I took an inventory of these photos, I had some interesting realizations:

1. I already had a beautiful kitchen (I had it already when I put together my wish box) -- in fact, it resembled the photos in the magazines. Did I simply want something "better?" Why didn't I appreciate the one I already had?

2. I received the beautiful wardrobe, due to the generosity of a good friend who donated her designer clothes to me earlier this year.

3. Our garden -- just this year -- bloomed more magnificently and produced more flowers than it ever has in the past.

So, what does this mean? What I’m sure of is that my wishing came from a place that Martha Beck terms as 'the shallows' -- a place of insecurity. This is similar to what the Buddhists call 'grasping' -- a desire that has at its core a childish wish to end suffering. Martha Beck talks about how we need to attract from our 'core of peace' -- or, our most authentic selves, and how true manifestation only happens when we make our affirmations from this place.

Ironically, I no longer crave these objects, and it's not only because I now have them. Has anyone else every noticed that once you let go of something you truly desire, it comes into your life? Interestingly, even though I was asking from the 'shallows' I did receive what I had asked for. But in addition to the "stuff" I also received some very difficult challenges which taught me gratitude is key to happiness, and that status is not.

So, I sat down and created a new vision board, or as I prefer to call it, a mission statement, for my life. I don't want to simply ask for things to come into my life, but rather, I want to view life as an exchange in which I offer service or something of value to others.

Also, rather than focusing on the objects I wanted to attract, I thought about concepts that I wanted to bring into my life, like competency, success, beauty, balance, simplicity, relationships, awareness, focus.

In the center of the page, I placed "God" because I want to remember that my connection to the Source of all things is a desire to serve the Universe, as opposed to a desire for the Universe to serve me.

I believe that my initial understanding about the law of attraction was that it was supposed to work like magic -- I wished for something, and it would come true. But in fact, the magic can only happen when we surrender our egos to the will of the Universe. This allows us to rise to the level for which we are intended because we become a clear channel to receive the intentions the Universe has for us.

How do we know we are receiving the Universe’s intentions? When we are doing work that inspires and excites us, without “grasping” for material reward. Of course it’s good to receive, but our primary, motivating drive should be giving service to the best of our ability. When I made my intention to view my life with gratitude I was rewarded with a rich life, independent of my financial situation. By doing the work for which we are intended, we become open to abundance.

Lisa Fyfe is a contributing columnist for The Lohasian. Her column, “Life with Fyfe: Confessions of a Holistic Mom” delivers a perspective on the everyday life of a modern holistic mom, as well as provides an insider look into best strategies for natural health and healing for the whole family.

Lisa is a Reiki Master, and an expert in Essential Oil Healing, and has spent the last several years extensively researching traditional diet and nutrition, with a focus on “whole,” locally grown and raised natural foods. She is a married mother of two children, Sophie and Max. Lisa approaches mothering as her highest calling, and believes that all mothers are natural healers and enjoys helping mothers (and others) help their children through the use of a variety of natural modalities.

To Reach Lisa, Email Here at lisafyfe (at)

1 comment:

Unknown said...

Thanks for your post on the LOA.

I'm making a movie "The Compass" with cast members from The Secret and The Opus and several new teachers who have so much to offer.

I welcome your comments!


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