Friday, August 8, 2008
Why does it seem so hard for us to change while at the same time life is all about embracing change? Change can involve different viewpoints. For instance, there is the kind of change that we desire, such as wanting to lose weight or make a lot of money, or even marrying the person of our dreams. At the other end of the tunnel, so to speak, change is something that happens every moment without our input.
For instance, we are all getting older, we lose loved ones, and we are thrown into the twists and turns of life that we cannot plan for. So what this means is that we do have some input in the co-creation of our lives. For instance, I can choose to either come up with a plan to lose some weight and follow through with it or I can make a batch of brownies and eat every last crumb. That is a change in which I have input. Yet, let’s keep in mind that from the most profound level of consciousness, we do also have some threads of connection with the source of the creation of change itself. This connection is how we can co-create our lives. That said, most of us are not coming from our most integrated spiritual, emotional, mental and physical state. Most of us are on the Karmic wheel of life and still working it out.
Part of co-creating our lives is to notice the “co” in front of “creating.” Therefore, we don’t have complete control over anything. As much as we do affirmations, seek therapy, and do our personal development, we still have to be willing to work with that which is presented to us; we may never really understand why, even if we do past life regressions, deep meditation workshops, or ask for guidance. What occurs to me is how do we deal with what is presented to us? Do we hide under the covers? Or, do we accept what is? This level of maturity sounds easier than it actually is. When you have reached the ability to successfully dance with life as it comes toward you, then you have the potential for personal freedom, happiness, and peace. This does not mean that we don’t take responsibility for our lives and the direction they go; this means that we do the best with what we have and accept our very best in any given moment.
Jennifer Howard, Ph.D. is an internationally known psychotherapist, Integrated Kabbalistic Healer®, life coach, educator, and author. She maintains private practices and is co-founder of the Healing Path Center with offices in New York City and Huntington, L.I., New York, as well as an extensive phone practice.
As a licensed psychotherapist, Dr. Howard brings together 24 years of experience, extensive training and expertise in mind-body psychology, meditation, and a variety of the healing arts. Dr. Howard has been frequently seen as an expert and featured guest, on national television shows including, The Maury Povich Show, Turning Point, America’s Talking, Rolanda, Charles Perez and others. Before becoming a psychotherapist, Howard was a professional actress and dancer. She is also the author of "Changes That Last", publication date to be announced.
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